In addition to doing bodywork, I have also been a professional health writer and editor for many years. Now I’m putting my writing to work for you. Here I’ll explore common issues I see in my practice and offer practical tools you can apply to your life. Enjoy!
When I was in massage school, my instructors would often talk about the creature within. It was that knowing, thinking, other intelligence inside. Call it the body wisdom. Call it the subconscious. By any name, it has a lot of opinions—if we’re willing to listen.
My own creature decided I needed a good talking to the night after my recent birthday celebrations. I woke up from a dream in which an inner healer came to me with some stern advice about my health.
The healer told me in no uncertain terms that refined sugars were playing havoc with my hormones and damaging my health. I needed to quit all refined sugars, she said. Then she loaded up my arms with healthy protein sources like lentils.
I woke up and said, “Got it. I’ll cut out the sugars and eat more healthy protein.” And then I got to enjoy a week of sugar withdrawal. Ugh, not fun. But worth it.
Your inner creature has access to information and wisdom beyond what you have. So it’s well worth it to come into relationship with this part of yourself. But you have to be willing to listen.
Listen to what?
Dreams are just one way our inner creatures speak with us. They can also speak in imagery, sensations, symptoms, illness, and spontaneous movements. To start a relationship with your inner creature, try these steps…
First, decide which channel is easiest to tune in to: dreams, images, sensations, or movement.
Second, tell your inner self you’d like to connect.
Third, reach out through the easiest channel. You could ask a specific question or just invite your inner creature to talk through:
- Dreams: Put a notebook or phone by your bed at night. Ask for communication in a dream. Write down or record whatever comes.
- Images: Go to a safe, inner space. Invite your inner wisdom to come talk. Be open to what shows up.
- Sensations: Tune in to a body sensation. Describe it to yourself with words, images, gestures…whatever resonates. Ask your body if the description fits and describes all of it. Listen for the response.
- Movement: Allow your body to move spontaneously. Do these movements speak to you? Do they tell a story or bring up any new awareness?
Finally, be persistent. It may take a few tries before your inner creature trusts you enough to respond. Be sincere. Listen and try to understand. And be willing to act in response, even if you don’t like the message.
Ever peeled that thin, white layer off a piece of raw chicken? That’s fascia. Most of us view our bodies as muscles, bones, and organs, held together by skin. But it’s actually fascia that holds us together. And it’s fascia causing so many of our aches and pains.
Imagine that, layered just beneath your skin, is a stretchy wetsuit covering your whole body. And if you tug on that wetsuit at the shoulder, it will pull all the way down your back and lower. Imagine, too, that this stretchy stuff extends all through the inside of your body, wrapping each part. So, if you melted away everything but the fascia, you’d have a complete replica of a human body with all of its organs, muscles, and bones.
Welcome to your body.
Fascia ties your entire body together in one, interconnected web. It lets your muscles and organs glide smoothly over one another. And it holds those organs in place. (You didn’t think they just sat there loose in your torso, did you?) It also stores lots of water and keeps it moving. Without fascia, your fluids would all pool at your feet.
So far, so good. So what’s the problem?
Just like with a sweater, a snag in one part of the fascia can pull on and cause pain in other parts. What causes these snags? Injuries. Repetitive movements. Poor posture. Physical strain causes fascia to shorten, tighten, and lay down more fibers to support overworked muscles. But this thick, tight fascia becomes stiff and painful. Its layers get glued together so it can’t glide. And it pulls on other areas, making them hurt, too.
And it goes even deeper…
Your brain and spinal cord are wrapped in tough fascia, called dura. It’s the deepest layer of fascia in the body. And it can tighten, twist, and get snags, too. So a snag at the base of your head could pull all the way to your tailbone. Or a twist in the dura at the neck could pull on the nerve root sheath that connects to fascia all down your arm.
Fortunately, fascia is malleable and can change with new input. Bodywork can be great for this. But what fascia loves best is movement. Movement helps it stay healthy, moist, and elastic. So stretch your body. Dance to the radio. Or walk some extra steps. Because a lot of what people call aging…it’s just their fascia getting tight, stiff, and dry.
Getting injured is, sadly, a part of life. We all go through it, whether it’s a pulled muscle, a broken bone, a paper cut, or something more traumatic. But no matter how serious the injury, it’s jarring. There’s pain, followed by that moment of realizing: I’m hurt. But it’s what you do in the next moment that can play a big role in how well you heal.
No, I’m not talking about staunching the blood—or calling 911. Though by all means do those if needed!
What I’m talking about is the attitude you take toward your injury. In the moment after getting hurt, how do you react mentally and emotionally?
Because there are a whole lot of reactions you can have. And most of them are not all that helpful and may even impede your healing.
Some people get angry after an injury. They berate themselves or blame someone else. This floods your body with anger chemistry, which can further feed the pain cycle.
Other people go straight to denial. That did not just happen. Or…I’m not letting this affect my life one bit. They try to keep doing all of their normal activities. They get upset if the injury doesn’t heal overnight. And they look for magic fixes to make it all go away.
Still others drop into a fear place. They don’t trust that their body will heal. Or they start imagining the worst-case scenario. Their body floods with fear chemicals and that gets looped into the pain cycle.
From there, some people go to despair. This will never heal. They get stuck in negative thinking and hopelessness and then don’t do the self-care needed to help heal.
But even if your reaction is not this extreme, you may find—if you really pay attention—that in the moment after getting hurt, you are sitting in active resistance to the injury. It’s not OK that you’re hurt. Some part of you is fighting the reality of being injured.
So, what is helpful? The one attitude that can be profoundly helpful after an injury—even if it’s just a paper cut—is acceptance. A nanosecond in which you allow, yes, I’m hurt. Alright then. From there, it’s easier to cope with pain. It’s easier to be patient. And it’s easier to accept that, for now, a part of you no longer works as well.
With acceptance, you’ll listen to your body, rather than push it. You’ll allow time for healing. You’ll do the self-care. And, most importantly, you’ll trust your body to heal.
Over the past month, I’ve had two clients tell me powerful dreams they had after bodywork. I’ve had several clients describe images that came up during sessions. And I’ve had one reader request an article on dreams. So today, I’ll share some of what I know about the body’s dream language, my gift to them—and to you.
If you’ve worked with me for any length of time, you know I’m always interested in how things feel for you. Your body’s language of sensation and feeling is a powerful tool for healing and for knowing yourself. But there is another: the body’s language of symbols.
A symbol is a compact assemblage of meaning—all highly personal to you. Take an oak tree, for example. For you, it may connect to a sense of climbing, freedom, and elation. For another, it may be linked to falling, fear, and pain. For yet others, it may evoke coolness and shade, warm fall colors, or the start of school. All of your associations get built into the symbol. And you can draw on them to figure out what it means.
Here’s some of what I’ve learned from many years of writing down my dreams:
Create your own dream dictionary. We are all humans, having similar human experiences, so often symbols have common meanings. But just as often, the meaning of your symbol is highly personal. So it’s best to figure out that meaning for yourself.
Look at what went on the day or two before the dream. Dreams often process unresolved issues—especially feelings—of the past day or so. What stirred you up or left you unsatisfied, even if it’s about the past? That is fodder for dreams.
Follow the feelings. Dreams help us process undigested emotions. So give priority to the emotions in the dream. How do they relate to what’s going on in your life?
Ask what the symbol is like. Look at all of your past associations with the symbol. What stands out as the essence? Then ask what that essence is like in your life now.
Imagine every character is a part of yourself. Dreams about people we know can relate to outer relationships. But often, those people embody an aspect of ourselves.
Figure out what you don’t know. Dreams are communication from our deepest selves. They don’t just rehash what you already know. They tell you something more.
Lastly, look for the “aha.” Dream interpretation is more art than science. So look for a sense of “aha,” that inner ringing bell that tells you when you’ve got it.
Let me ask you this: Do you find it hard to relax? Maybe you feel worried or anxious a lot. Maybe your neck and shoulders always feel tight. Or you always have to be doing something—it’s hard to just sit and relax.
If those issues ring a bell, how about these: Would you say your digestion and elimination are great? How about your sleep, do you usually sleep well? And your energy? Are you bursting with vim and vigor or do you feel worn out a lot?
If you didn’t fare too well with those questions, your body is trying to tell you something. You’re likely pretty stressed. Many people have no idea how stressed out and overstimulated they are. The signs may creep up…or feel so familiar you don’t recognize them as problems. What do I mean by an overstimulated nervous system?
Let’s start with your autonomic nervous system. It controls all of the bodily processes not under your conscious control, things like breathing, heart rate, and digestion. And it’s divided into two parts: the sympathetic and the parasympathetic nervous systems. You may know these as your fight or flight and rest and digest systems.
Fight or flight helps protect you from danger. It gears you up to fight or run away from stressors. And it shunts blood away from systems that don’t help you do that—like digestion. Rest and digest is the return to equilibrium. It lets your body nourish, heal, and repair.
Normally, the body cycles fluidly between these two systems. But sometimes…we get stuck in fight or flight. It becomes the new set point. And over time, this can wear you down and make you sick.
So what causes all of this overstimulation? Many things…
- Chronic stressors: like illness, financial strains, grief, noisy neighbors
- Stimulants: caffeine, nicotine
- Electronic devices: blue light from electronic screens has a stimulating effect
- Stimuli of the modern world; like bright lights, loud sounds, graphic images
- Highly sensitive wiring: some people are extra sensitive to stimuli
- Trauma: trauma locks cycling fight-or-flight energy in the tissues
In this busy modern world, full of stressors that our caveman-era wiring never dreamed of, it’s easy to get overstimulated. So it’s a good idea to find ways to slow down and calm down. Nature works for me. Deep breathing, good sleep, and pottering with favorite hobbies work for most. What works for you?
Craniosacral therapy has been a lifesaver for my back. Without it, I’d be locked up and in pain. I’d likely need invasive treatments. And I certainly couldn’t do my job. But it’s been my own experience with a bulging disc that has taught me the most.
My spine has a long and storied history of problems….
At 19, as a stressed out college student, my neck went into spasm. So I went to see a chiropractor who took full spinal X-rays. (Not recommended, by the way.) And what I saw stunned me.
Signs of arthritis in my midback. Scoliosis in my low back. A slipped vertebrae. Things that were too straight. Things that were too curved. In shock, I accused the doc of mixing up my X-ray. I was nineteen.
From that time on, I was in and out of chiropractor’s offices—and other practitioners—dealing with hip pain, back pain, an unstable pelvis, a neck in spasm…you name it.
And all of those treatments helped for many years. Until they didn’t.
Because my treatments were always “fixing” the same problems. And the more my back got adjusted, the more inflamed it became. Until it could no longer tolerate adjustment.
That’s when I went to massage school and discovered craniosacral therapy. Massage gave me lovely pain relief. But cranio brought real change.
Craniosacral therapy involves gentle touch that releases bone and tissue restrictions in the skull, spine, pelvis, and whole body. It calms and resets the nervous system. And it stimulates the body’s self-healing ability.
My cranio treatments have stopped my neck going out, mobilized my midback, stabilized my hips, and relieved pressure on the disc below my slipped vertebrae. But the true test came this year when a bulging disc began pressing on a bladder nerve.
This was serious. But I didn’t panic.
I trusted cranio and my body’s treatment plan. And over time, my body has:
- Dumped heat to relieve inflammation
- Pulsed fluid into the joint space to get pressure off the disc
- Deactivated the overstimulated electrical charge along the nerve
- Released fascial strains reaching higher up the spine
- Released shock and terror held in the low back
- Repositioned sheared vertebrae to improve alignment
None of this has been fast. And all of it has required a commitment to healthy movement and postural exercises. But the pressure is off my nerve. The disc is healing. And my spinal alignment is slowly improving.
When was the last time you really had fun? The kind where you completely lost track of time, laughed your head off, or felt that inner surge of yes!
Been a while? You’re not alone.
As adults, we often forget to have fun. We can get so busy with the demands of life that we don’t make time for fun. Or we think having fun is trivial or an indulgence. It’s not. Fun fuels and renews you. It’s vital to your health—and to a rich and rewarding life.
Fun Is Great for You
Fun is an antidote to stress. Chronic stress is linked to muscle tension and a host of health problems—headaches, heart disease, and digestive problems just to start. Fun helps reset your brain’s stress response, switching it out of “fight or flight” and back to “rest and digest.”
Having fun also leads to laughing. And laughing is great for you. Laughter helps relieve stress, relax muscles, and boost endorphins, your brain’s feel-good chemicals. And if you make a habit of laughing? Over time it can help boost both mood and immunity.
Having More Fun
What’s fun for you may be entirely different from what’s fun for someone else. And unexpected things may be enjoyable. The important thing is to figure out what’s fun for you. Here’s how:
Let your body be the guide
Fun is something you feel in your body, not just think in your head. If you think you should be having fun at a party, but feel bored or stressed, that’s not fun. Fun brings a spontaneous smile to your lips. It may feel like melting relaxation, bubbling excitement, or spreading joy.
Start noticing what truly feels fun to you. If you’re not sure, make a list of things you enjoy and imagine yourself doing them. Notice which bring a true smile to your lips.
Mine your childhood
What did you love to do as a kid? What did you lose yourself in completely? The things you loved doing as a child are a great guide to what you actually find fun. Look for ways to work those things into your life now.
Fun doesn’t have to be time-consuming or expensive. You can have fun petting your dog or accessorizing your outfit. It only matters that it lights you up inside.